You too can have a win in 2010.Exactly what is a win win?
Do you have any relationship you want to improve?
99% of us have a relationship we'd like to enhance - often more than one: >with a spouse or partner, perhaps
>with a boss or co-worker, possibly
>with a child or teenager, probably Well, there's a way to make it better.
Right now, each of your relationships falls into one of these 4 categories:
1, win-lose (You're winning in the relationship; they're losing.)
2, win-win (You're both winning in the relationship - congratulations.)
3, lose-win (You're losing; they're winning.)
4, lose-lose (You're both losing.)
Number 2, the win-win way, is the only one that ensures quality relationships. The other 3 are toxic.
How to Create a Win-Win in Relationships
Admitting that I am the only common denominator in all of my relationships, and therefore responsible for how all of them are going, is sometimes a hard pill to swallow when they aren’t going very well. But seeing that I am the common denominator gives me power to change the dynamics to something better that works. I am definitely in to having joyful, peaceful, growing relationships with my God, myself, and all others and so I sooner or later take the hard pill and swallow.
From experience, I can say that it has been the most freeing, eye opening, and healing to start with just changing myself instead of trying to change others. When I change, it seems that with time, everything around me shifts to the new me and my relationships heal. Who would have thought that making myself FULLY responsible for how I feel about a relationship would bring me so much peace, power, and healing? We are taught to do the opposite in this world many times. I grew up believing that if I fixed everything outside of me, then I won the game of life and everything would work out. I grew up believing that finding the problem, which was usually perceived outside of myself, and then letting everyone know what the real problem was, would make us all want to get it all solved and working.
There was another underlying concept, “It takes two to tango.” Of course, that put at least half of the blame on someone else for things not working. I felt soothed by the concept and yet still stuck in not finding movement in the relationship. I mean, how could I hold myself fully responsible for how things were going if she/he was doing ______. You fill in the blank.
What was missing in my understanding for most of my life was that I was the one who allowed people to act a certain way around me. I was the one who did not have a back bone to say, “You are welcome to do things in the manner you choose, and I choose to not be an accomplice by saying nothing or staying around when you choose to do that kind of behavior”. I did not have the idea that it was okay to define myself and what I stood for in a loving way.
Lastly, the more one defines what one stands for in a loving way, the easier it is to attract situations and people who are willing to dance the defined dance. The people who are around as you grow either enjoy the new steps and stick around, or move on and find something that they think is better for them. No one loses because no one is stuck in a relationship that is not growing and healing. Being stuck is, in my opinion, choosing a slow sickly death.
How to Create a Win-Win in Business
Negotiating business deals has little to do with bargaining, compromise and competition. Effective negotiation is not a mental and verbal sparring session, where the side with the sharpest mind, toughest resolve and most aggressive tactics emerges as the victor. Taking such an approach invariably leads to win-lose or, worse, lose-lose outcomes. Effective deal makers approach negotiations as a mutual problem-solving process.
Many successful business owners conclude that to create win-win outcomes, both sides to a negotiation must:
·Strive to understand the other person's wants and needs
·Attempt to solve the other person's problems as well as their own
·Adopt a mindset of flexibility rather than rigidity
·Focus on "enlarging the pie" rather than dividing it up
·Always aim for win-win outcomes
This approach may sound "soft" to those who enjoy going toe-to-toe with the other side during a negotiation. However, experts emphatically agree that following these principles will dramatically increase your chances of creating deals that benefit both sides and lead to positive long-term relationships."
In conclusion, to win in life you have to be well organized. To put it very simply, only by being organized will you be able to do all the many things that will bring you success.No two days are the same so, setting a daily plan and expecting it to work every day is self-defeating. You can create a perfect day only on paper! With a life that is varied and unpredictable it can be a real challenge to find ways to be effective all the time. Here, I’ve provided some tips -- make them part of your daily routine and you will start to enjoy more personal freedom in your daily life that will create a win win in your personal and professional life.
1. Have Clear Aims And Objectives – Long term goals require medium and short-term goals to prescribe daily activities. Keeping your most exciting goals constantly alive in your mind will ensure that you’ll always want to make the best use of every day. Time is your most valuable resource, but without clear aims it’s impossible to make profitable use of it.
2. Identify Priorities - List your tasks and activities. Some tasks are more important than others; some have greater urgency; some may not be necessary today or at all! Decide what is important. Re-evaluate for: urgency, by asking yourself WHEN tasks must be done. Using a simple system for assigning the order in which to do everything: A = Urgent; B = Important; C = Less Important.
3. Keep Order - Keep your surroundings tidy and functional. Put in systems that are efficient and easy to use. Simple is best. A tip for letter-writers and authors: write one word-prompts, decide on the sequence of your ideas, and then write the letter.
4. Plan Tomorrow Today - Make brief notes to yourself as things happen. Then, at the end of each day, renew what happened and make a plan for tomorrow. As well as maintaining order, end-of-day organizing gives your subconscious mind a chance to compute your suggested plan for tomorrow. In the morning you may see better or different means for achieving your plan. This is why so many people find that if they ‘sleep on problems’ a decision comes more easily the next day.
And remember, in 2010, you too can create a win-win!
